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Today, Valeria welcomes Allison Holker to Not Alone. Since the passing of her husband Stephen (better known to the world as tWitch), Allison has been on the road to healing, self-discovery, and self-love. Together, Allison and Valeria talk about the power of faith and the comfort it provides, parenting your children through grief, how to have a successful and loving relationship with your teens, and the problem with toxic positivity. Allison Holker is a dancer and choreographer who got her start on Season 2 of So You Think You Can Dance. From there she joined SYTYCD as an All-Star in later seasons, danced as a pro on Dancing With The Stars, hosted Disney’s Fairytale Weddings, and is now a judge on So You Think You Can Dance for Season 18. She is the mother of 3 beautiful children and is an author now as well. 

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Check out Allison’s new children’s book “Keep Dancing Through: A Boss Family Groove” https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/727521/keep-dancing-through-by-allison-holker-boss-stephen-twitch-boss/ 

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Allison is on:

https://www.instagram.com/allisonholker 

https://www.tiktok.com/@allisonholkerboss 

https://www.facebook.com/holkerallison/ 

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Valeria is on:

https://www.instagram.com/valerialipovetsky/ 

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCWkDFq1pO7YNzifE3A4UsMA 

https://www.tiktok.com/@valeria.lipovetsky 

Not Alone Podcast

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What We Talked About:

• 00:00 Intro
• 01:39 We found bringing people in so enjoyable
• 03:00 Letting go of trying to control everything
• 04:24 There are a lot of hard days
• 08:46 God doesn’t give you things you can’t handle
• 09:56 What were you fearful of?
• 11:15 Forgiveness 
• 12:58 How do you talk to your kids?
• 15:23 Growing up together with your child
• 17:00 Let your kids speak and thrive 
• 21:43 Loving myself for the first time
• 24:22 Can you still love yourself on a sh*tty day?
• 28:31 Faith and religion
• 33:07 How much to give and keep for yourself
• 37:09 Toxic positivity
• 41:00 Share your emotions in a safe place
• 44:00 Learning how to use your voice
• 45:53 I no longer care what people think
• 47:15 Choosing not to show my vulnerability
• 53:55 How to teach children about the world outside social media
• 55:58 Expressing opinions and virality
• 57:53 So You Think You Can Dance
• 59:34 Being a judge at SYTYCD
• 01:01:21 Are you ready to move forward?

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